So often we hear scary, negative stories about birth. There is a reason that women share these stories and that is because they are often trying to process their birth experience, by sharing their traumatic stories.

This can help a woman process her bad birth, but it often just creates more fear in a pregnant woman.

"Positive stories shared by women who have wonderful childbirth experiences are an irreplaceable way to transmit knowledge of a woman's true capacities in pregnancy and birth."
Ina May Gaskin

We don't often hear positive, wonderful stories about birth, so a lot of women approach the experience with a great amount of fear.

We need to hear more positive birth stories to help change the paradigm of birth being a scary, traumatic experience that you have to endure. It doesn't mean that we stop sharing our stories if we have had a bad birth, it just means being mindful of who you share your story with. We often suggest birth debriefing so you can process what happened at your birth, so you are able to process it and move forward with your parenting journey.

We find that woman that have positive stories sometimes feel like they can't share their story as it can make women who have had a negative experience feel bad about her birth. However it is very important for women to hear positive stories, so they know what is possible and so they know that fear and trauma doesn't have to be the default with birth.